Last fall, we found ourselves in a major upheaval (aren’t all upheavals major?) when we needed to sell our house quickly to avoid bankruptcy. We did, thankfully, and in the process had less than 30 days to sort through 26 years worth of
junk possessions. What do we toss, sell, donate, store, take with us to an apartment 1/4 of the size of the house we were leaving? Where can you go when you can’t buy right away and your bad credit score prevents an apartment complex from accepting six months rent in cash? We did it though even when someone told us they didn’t want to rent to “people like us” (from the place where we offered to give them 6 months rent the day we moved in when we closed escrow). We did it even though we lost our beloved German shepherd the day we moved. We did it! We did it with broken hearts over our Rolf and we did it with glad hearts for a fresh start in new digs. We did it even though our last remaining child at home moved elsewhere and we became empty nesters (even emptier without our dog). We did it even though we didn’t like each other very much through the process. We did it even though it was embarrassing. And we survived.
Once the fog lifted and it was time to get back to business as usual, I had a shock. A few days before my blog name (domain name) expired, I tried to transfer it away from WordPress to my usual registar so my whole blog could be on my VPS. Wordpress blocked it (supposedly for my protection) and through a comedy of errors on both their part and mine (being that I was preoccupied with the above), when the block was removed, I didn’t realize it and a Japanese lingerie site (soft porn!) took over MY NAME. My domain name was my personal name which I’m not typing here because I don’t want you to go there and give them any traffic. But people, MY NAME dot com! I am not a soft porn site and oh the agony and embarrassment. I’ve spent four months trying to fix this. I’ve spent those same months trying to get my first name dot com and they never respond. So this blog has hung in limbo as I’ve tried to sort out what to do. In short – a bit of an identity crisis. It’s turned into a long process and the links to my name dot com are everywhere so using my name dot net isn’t going to be helpful – people will usually go to a dot com.
It’s time to move on. Until I figure out if this blog even needs a name, I’ll be hanging out here at maribethdoerr.wordpress.com.
“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”
Eric Klein has an amazing website and newsletter called Wisdom Heart. In his newsletter on Wednesday, he closes with this incredible thought:
Albert Einstein said that the most important question a person can ask – and answer – is this: “Is the Universe friendly?”
What makes this such a critical question? Because, how you answer determines the degree of openness of your “door of consciousness.”
“If your mind perceives the Universe as unfriendly – it will contract and defend the borders of identity from all “foreign influences” – including wisdom, health, love, and joy.
But, as you attune to gratitude, the defensive postures of consciousness relax. The cells of your body and the petals of your mind to receive the ever-present blessings of Life. You realize – you’re surrounded! What a blessing.”
Incredible right? How do you perceive the Universe?
For those of you who like to serve others, here’s a wonderful article by Rachel Naomi Remen, MD. I think it’s important to think about the why behind our efforts to work with others and this article helps us do that by asking if we’re there to help, fix or serve . . .
Helping, fixing and serving represent three different ways of seeing life. When you help, you see life as weak. When you fix, you see life as broken. When you serve, you see life as whole. Fixing and helping may be the work of the ego, and service the work of the soul.
Doesn’t that make you pause and rethink what you’re doing and what’s your motivation? I love to “help” but I don’t think I see life as weak. Have I been conveying that to people? Perhaps I’ve been serving all along (because it does feel like soul work) and it’s a matter of semantics. Whatever it is, it’s good to think about it and reassess my big WHY. Here’s another juicy quote:
Those who serve have traded a sense of mastery for an experience of mystery, and in doing so have transformed their work and their lives into practice.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this article!
I admit I’m a sap about a lot of things, but this Youtube video probably makes even the toughest of the tough cry. Meet Charlotte Bottger who has cerebral palsy. Like most little girls, she has dreams of being a ballerina. Her father raised enough money to bring Charlotte to the USA for surgery that would help her walk. This video is Charlotte dancing with David Pickering and Sander Blommaert of The Royal Ballet at the Royal Opera House in London. It is precious and delightful and full of inspiration, and you’ll need kleenex at the end when she says, “I’m a ballerina.” Yes Charlotte, you are!
Charlotte’s story was featured on a TV show called ‘What would be your Miracle?’ on ITV.com. This makes me ask, what would be your miracle? It doesn’t have to be some big medical cure. Miracles come in all sizes. So I ask, what would be yours?