Maribeth Wilder Doerr

Shades of Healing ~ Creating a Wholehearted Life

Bobcat Sightings and Sighings

As I work on moving and revamping my blog while entertaining some new health issues, I wanted to share a few pictures with you lest you think I’ve totally disappeared. Last June, we moved from our little apartment to a rental house in the farthest west neighborhood of my town. We have a hill directly behind us, and we get to enjoy all kinds of wildlife sightings including birds (especially my husband’s favorite red tailed hawks), bunnies galore, jackrabbits, squirrels and tiny lizards in the summer. Yesterday, we saw this bobcat on the rock wall at the top of the hill. He (she?) hung out there for at least 30 minutes after we noticed him. I had time to dig out the Canon and telephoto lens, and we’ve decided we need to keep it handy! He sat there and groomed just like any cat and then laid down for awhile. Such a gorgeous face. Enjoy! We certainly did! If you click on each picture, you’ll get a larger view.


Finding My Way Back to Me – Getting Ready to Move (On)

In my last post, I talked about my “Identity Crisis” created in part by WordPress blowing up my blog and letting my domain name go which happened to be MY name, the name I go through life with.  Someone in Japan snagged it and it’s a lingerie or soft porn site!  My name!  I was hoping to acquire it when their registration expired but nope.  Looks like they’re keeping it for another year and so, because I used to enjoy blogging, I’m reclaiming that again.  I’m in the process of moving my content here to a blog hosted on my VPS rather than through WordPress so this can’t happen again.  I’ll probably remove several of the posts here that are totally irrelevant in 2018.  I’ll let you know when the move is complete!

In the meantime, I invite you to join me in a facebook group (or via the new blog) for some self-care.  Starting January 8, I’ll be posting questions and ideas to help us (as in women) feel better.  I certainly want to in 2018.  I’ve been stagnant, peddling my feet, treading water, feeling like I’m existing in survival mode only (enough with the cliches but you get my drift!) . . . I’ve had some major life changes and upheavals in the last 14 months.  I’m ready to focus on what’s next and feeling better physically, emotionally, mentally and every which way.  Want to take this journey with me?

I will be posting thoughts, videos and audios as we go through this journey.  We begin January 8.  Hope you’ll join me!  And hopefully, my blog will be fully housed in the new digs by then!

Happy 2018 to you all.

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Identity Crisis?

Last fall, we found ourselves in a major upheaval (aren’t all upheavals major?) when we needed to sell our house quickly to avoid bankruptcy.  We did, thankfully, and in the process had less than 30 days to sort through 26 years worth of junk possessions.  What do we toss, sell, donate, store, take with us to an apartment 1/4 of the size of the house we were leaving?  Where can you go when you can’t buy right away and your bad credit score prevents an apartment complex from accepting six months rent in cash?  We did it though even when someone told us they didn’t want to rent to “people like us” (from the place where we offered to give them 6 months rent the day we moved in when we closed escrow).  We did it even though we lost our beloved German shepherd the day we moved.  We did it!  We did it with broken hearts over our Rolf and we did it with glad hearts for a fresh start in new digs.  We did it even though our last remaining child at home moved elsewhere and we became empty nesters (even emptier without our dog).  We did it even though we didn’t like each other very much through the process.  We did it even though it was embarrassing.  And we survived.

Once the fog lifted and it was time to get back to business as usual, I had a shock.  A few days before my blog name (domain name) expired, I tried to transfer it away from WordPress to my usual registar so my whole blog could be on my VPS.  Wordpress blocked it (supposedly for my protection) and through a comedy of errors on both their part and mine (being that I was preoccupied with the above), when the block was removed, I didn’t realize it and a Japanese lingerie site (soft porn!) took over MY NAME.  My domain name was my personal name which I’m not typing here because I don’t want you to go there and give them any traffic.  But people, MY NAME dot com!  I am not a soft porn site and oh the agony and embarrassment.  I’ve spent four months trying to fix this.  I’ve spent those same months trying to get my first name dot com and they never respond.  So this blog has hung in limbo as I’ve tried to sort out what to do.  In short – a bit of an identity crisis.  It’s turned into a long process and the links to my name dot com are everywhere so using my name dot net isn’t going to be helpful – people will usually go to a dot com.

It’s time to move on.  Until I figure out if this blog even needs a name, I’ll be hanging out here at



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Friday Faves – The Most Important Question You Can Ask

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

Eric Klein has an amazing website and newsletter called Wisdom Heart. In his newsletter on Wednesday, he closes with this incredible thought:

Albert Einstein said that the most important question a person can ask – and answer – is this: “Is the Universe friendly?”
What makes this such a critical question? Because, how you answer determines the degree of openness of your “door of consciousness.”
“If your mind perceives the Universe as unfriendly – it will contract and defend the borders of identity from all “foreign influences” – including wisdom, health, love, and joy.
But, as you attune to gratitude, the defensive postures of consciousness relax.  The cells of your body and the petals of your mind to receive the ever-present blessings of Life.  You realize – you’re surrounded!  What a blessing.”
Incredible right?  How do you perceive the Universe?
You can learn more about Eric’s work at
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Can You Help Me Bring Yoga to Women Pregnant After Pregnancy/Infant Loss?

In 2014, I had a successful GoFundMe campaign to complete Baby Loss Doula Training.  Thank you all so much for helping me achieve that dream.  In 2015, I completed the requirements and am a certified baby loss doula.  I help women and families in my community as well as across the country (and even one in Australia!).  I do this work as a volunteer, and as a woman who went through labor knowing my baby would be born dead (and knowing after delivery that my second son would die as well), I understand the need for women to have someone help them make plans for their birth when they know their baby will not survive.  This work is truly a labor of love.  These babies are wanted and cherished and these few moments (or days) after birth is the only chance their parents have to parent them.  I help them decide how they want to do exactly that.  You helped me achieve a dream come true!  Thank you thank you thank you!

On that first GoFundMe campaign, I had a wish list that included Prenatal Yoga Teacher training.  I am a registered yoga teacher (RYT) and now it’s time for me to take the next step in helping women who experience pregnancy/infant loss and to full fill that first campaign.  Pregnancy after loss is an incredibly emotional roller coaster.  Yoga helps with anxiety and stress; yoga for women who are pregnant again after pregnancy loss not only helps with grief but also with the fear that goes with another pregnancy.  It also helps with bonding with the new little one while holding space for the love for the baby that died.

I want to bring yoga to these women and I pray and hope you’ll help me.  My goals are to teach locally, to offer private lessons both locally and via skype which includes grief coaching and to make yoga videos for women who are not local or wish to learn over the internet.  I have yet to find anyone who is serving families in this way.  It’s needed – and badly!

I need your help to fund my training.  And good news!  Since my first GoFundMe where I thought I’d have to travel to San Francisco, there is now a prenatal yoga teacher training in my area (where I completed my 200 hour yoga teacher training) beginning in January 2017, provided there are enough signups at the training studio.  I need $1370 by January 1, 2017.  The additional amount to $1500 is for the fees that GoFundMe and WePay charge for this fundraiser (7.9% plus .30 per donation).  Can you help?

My wish list items include:  hoping to be certified in chair yoga and gentle yoga so that I can teach seniors at my church.  I am a Registered and Certified Yoga Teacher.  It would be helpful to be certified in chair yoga ($695) and gentle yoga for seniors ($495).  I can teach these now; however I am not certified and in teaching seniors, certification is extremely helpful and valuable.

I am in the process of creating my own brand of Yoga for Grief and I hope to debut that in Summer 2017.  In the meantime, I humbly ask you to help me help women grieving a pregnancy loss and/or trying to conceive/are pregnant again after a loss(es).  Getting back in touch with your body after such a loss is so important and vital.  Yoga can do this; someone trained in pregnancy loss support AND yoga can help these women move forward with less anxiety which always is better for baby!  Help me be that person.

To donate, click here.  And thank you for sharing this information with your friends and family.

From my heart to yours,



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